We all get to define what a successful life means.
It’s a personal thing, of course. Different people, different values. No right, no wrong.
But it’s still important to define the rules of the game for oneself. Without rules, without paramaters, without a definition of winning, well, there’s no game.
I frequently write about the importance of defining what a successful life feels like.
What I notice for myself (and for most people I talk to) that the feeling most associated with success — what people REALLY want — is to feel free in their lives.
Free to choose. Free to live according to their preferences. Free to be. Free to say yes. Free to say no.
I am reminded of all this becuase my friend just called.
It’s a lovely day — looks like we’re going to hit 80 degrees. My friend was so inspired he took a personal day from work. He’s heading out right now to buy a kayak (something he’s talked about for years). And he’s excited, of course.
Did I want to meet him for a paddle on the lake?
My answer took no thought.
Of course I do.
My work will be done by noon. Any other obligations are easily set aside.
The day is here. Life is now. Soak it up!
And the thought of ending up on a lake today fills my body with joy and excitment.
I like that my friends think to call me when they are filled with inspiration. They know that I am likely to say YES. They know that I have created a life where I have the space to say YES.
That makes me feel successful.
That’s my definition of winning the game.