Drew Rozell, Ph.D.

Author and Coach

The Magic Button

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I’ve discovered a magic button on my computer.

Turns out it works wonders not only online, but everywhere in my life.

You gotta check it out!

It’s called the “Delete” key.

Here’s how it works…

When I come across stuff that I do not like, that’s overly negative, or fails to add any value to my life, I just press the button!

DELETE!

And like magic, it’s gone! Poof! Out of my life!

I no longer have to steam, fume, or get myself in a huff.

I just hit the button, and PRESTO, the irritation is gone.

Like I said, I’m learning that this button works everywhere!

When I get a whiny e-mail from someone, do I still need to hem and haw over my reply? To try to assuage their feelings? To expend lots of energy trying to manipulate them into seeing how I am “right?”

Not anymore!

DELETE!

Turns out, I don’t even need to reply at all!

Wow! That’s feels good!

Oh sure, once in a while, the irritation comes back…

But here’s the best part — the button always works!

DELETE!

And just like that, it’s gone again!

The button works like a charm for social networking…

When I come across people on Facebook who like to complain about their mood, the government, the weather?

DELETE!

Just like that, their stuff no longer comes up on my page.

Oooh! That one gives me the tingles!

The really cool part is that the button works beyond my computer!

Now, when it dawns on me that a friend is really more of an energy drain than an energy boost?

DELETE!

Life is short. I value my time and I care about how I feel more than I care about nostalgia.

And that’s not all, folks…

A potential business client who wants to see if he can whittle down my fee? (These are always the worst clients, by the way…)

DELETE!

I’ve worked too long to hone my skills and value my talents too much to work with people who cannot see that value. Let them work with someone else. No need to even try crafting a reply!

(I must say, deleting these folks feels particularly sweet!)

I’m just getting the hang of this thing. But the more I use it, the better I feel!

I wonder why I didn’t even really notice is sitting there for all these years, begging to be used before?

I suppose I was concerned with what those people would think of me if I used it.

After all, somewhere along the line, I learned it was rude to use this button. But now that I think about it, and feeling how liberating it is to DELETE, I am guessing the person who taught me that was not an expert at feeling good.

You Attract What You Are

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The other night, I sat having dinner with two friends. One is an old friend, the other I just met that evening.

As we ate and talked, my old friend went on a mini-rant, complaining about some of the people in his life.

My new friend (who knew nothing about my work in the field of attraction) was having none of this complaining and came right back at him.

“You attract what you are,” he said.

My old friend did not take notice of this comment and the conversation moved on, but I lingered on the phrase.

Typically, I’ve heard people say, “You are what you attract.”

And while I suppose this is technically true, it feels passive and not an especially helpful or directive piece of advice.

Comparatively, “You attract what you are,” struck me as both informative and hopeful.

Here the responsibility for what you are experiencing falls squarely on the proper place — who you are being.

Second, I like the sense of hopefulness that I feel in this second phrase.

After all, “what you are” can change at any moment you choose.

Don’t like what you’re getting?

Just remember… you attract what you are.

So don’t complain. No one wants to hear it anyway.

Instead, look inward.

And change what you are.

How Do You Start Your Day?

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Just before sunrise. 1/13/10

How do you start your day?

Certainly there are an infinite number of potential responses to that question.

So let’s see if we can create a couple categories into which all potential responses could be separated.

Do you start your day DELIBERATELY?

Or NOT? (Best I could come up with  in the moment.)

While there’s not a right or wrong way between the two, I think there’s a better way.

Each day when you wake up, you start with a fresh slate. What you created in your life up to that point does not matter. What you struggled with the previous day or for the last couple decades is irrelevant.

The only thing that matters on this new day are the thoughts you choose because the thoughts you choose today determine what you create tomorrow.

When you take that in, I think that’s really awesome news, right?

Of course, taking advantage of this clean slate requires something of you. It requires you to deliberately focus your thoughts. It requires you to actively put your attention on that which you truly desire to create. While this process is not very difficult, it’s a habit. And it’s a habit most people do not practice.

Most of the time we wake up and let our thoughts go where they may. We follow our thoughts rather than consciously leading them.  Again, we begin each day with a fresh slate, but if we mindlessly connect to the same worries and concerns we had the day before, we give up that terrific opportunity to create something better in our lives. In short, we give up our power.

This is why how you start your day is so important. Begin your day by deliberatively guiding your thoughts to places that feel good, and you will attract more of that throughout your day.

Roll out of bed and let the headlines  (or your e-mail) decide where your attention goes, and well, you get what you get.

The practice of directing your thoughts to start the day is not hard.

Before you get out of bed, allow yourself five minutes. Allow yourself to connect to feelings of appreciation. The objects of your appreciation do not matter. Make it easy. Appreciate your bed. Your pillow. The warmth under the covers. Maybe you can appreciate the person next to you or cat who’s hogging all the bed space.

Do not try to solve any problems. Do not try to fix anything that’s awaiting you during your day.

Just appreciate. Just connect from one good feeling thought to another.

Next, perhaps you can allow yourself to think about your day and imagine things going well for you. See your day and feel it flowing they way you wish it to be.

When you feel good, get up and move about your day.

You are now ready to bring in the good stuff.

And yes, you can go pee now, too.