One of the most propagated and yet most misguided pieces of advice in the personal development/Law of Attraction world is that you should “be positive all the time” and only think positive thoughts.
(I heard a very popular, bald spiritual teacher repeating this idea to Oprah the other day and I started yelling at the TV. It’s the opposite of helpful because I see it fuck people up all the time, trying to align themselves with something or someone they just don’t like in the name of “positivity.”)
You’re not going to like some things. You’re really not going to like some people.
And that’s perfectly A-OK. That’s exactly as it should be.
The real problem comes when you try to stifle some feeling that society has taught you to believe isn’t “nice.”
Because then you’re resisting those thoughts and feelings.
And guess what?
That makes them stick around. And grow bigger. And fester.
Not allowing your feeling is a version of an auto-immune disease. You don’t want any part of that.
Allow yourself to feel whatever it is that you feel. Even when it’s not very nice.
That way you give your thoughts the opportunity to evolve.
They will, quickly.
And you’ll feel the wonderful freedom that’s waiting for you on the other side.