Drew Rozell, Ph.D.

Author and Coach

Attention! Attention!

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So, you want to feel more in control of what’s showing up in your life, huh?

You want to manifest your desires on a more consistent basis, right?

First, I hear you.

And second, I’m with you.

There’s nothing better than living your life on your own terms and watching your desires come together before your eyes. This feeling of being the deliberate creator of your life is the essence of a Very Cool Life™.

However, before you can see the stuff you want begin to show up around you, you must know and respect how things work.

My inspiration for this post was reading the words of a teacher who wrote that “the Universe always gives you want you want.”

Horse hockey.

Statements like this are what keep many people leery from learning more about the Law of Attraction. Most people recognize these words to be false from their own experience and then reject the Law of Attraction as New Age mumbo jumbo. And other folks, overly-optimistic and hungry in their desire for a better life, cling to this idea for as long as possible, but never make any progress and end up jaded about their own belief in the Law of Attraction.

I do not want these outcomes for anyone and I believe they come from a crucial misunderstanding of the principles at work.

So let’s clear a few things up right now.

The Universe does not give you what you want.

In fact, the Universe does not care what you want. It’s not a person! There’s no wizard behind a curtain, no white-haired man dressed in a robe and sandals, floating about in the sky keeping tabs on a list of your desires. (Oh, Susie wants a new car? Hmmmn. Let’s see here… Does she deserve a new car?) In fact, thinking that there exists some entity outside yourself that cares for you is a way of abdicating your own free will and sense of personal responsibility for your own life.

A better way to understand how the Universe works is to picture it as a massive amplifying machine. This amplifying machine does not care what kind of “music” you feed into it. It’s a machine, after all. It has no preferences. It only does one thing: It takes what you feed into it and then makes it louder.

This is how the process of manifestation works. The thoughts and feelings that you choose emanate from you, sending a specific signal out to this massive amplifier, the Universe. The amplified signal then comes back to you, a simple, perfect feedback system. Whatever you put into the system is what comes back out, only louder.

Most people are so focused on what they want (and their distress over the fact that what they want is not showing up) that they fail to see where the process of manifestation is breaking down. Here’s the distinction to help break this cycle.

The Universe does not give you more of what you want, the Universe gives you more of that which you give your attention.

In other words, what you want does not matter. Where you focus your attention determines what you create.

So, if you like what you are getting in a particular area of your life, keep your attention where it is.

If you do not like what you are getting, or wish to create something better, it’s your job to look inward and make changes based on your discovery of where your attention is focused on thoughts and feelings that reflect what you do NOT want.

When you understand and embrace the concept of the Universe as a big amplifier, this leads you to take charge of the thoughts and feelings you choose to activate. You begin to look at the results you create and then connect the dots to where you’ve been focusing your thoughts. You practice, tweak, and make adjustments.

You get what you focus upon. Whether that’s  good stuff or bad stuff, it’s just a reflection of where you put your attention. So why not get in the habit of attending to the things that feel good to focus on?

I promise you that this is the best investment of your time and energy if you wish to begin seeing your life unfold on your own terms.

Two Quotes and Dealing With Fear

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These two quotes came into my world yesterday, minutes apart, one seeming to speak directly to the other.

When things like this happen, I try not to step over those messages, so I will share them both here.

We would never move forward in the face of negative emotion. There are many people who would teach you otherwise. They say, you’ve got to face fear to get over it. And all they do is desensitize themselves to the point that they get themselves into situations where they have no idea what’s going on, and the end of them comes rather abruptly… [widget id=”text-9″]text-9[/widget]And then everyone calls them brave.[widget id=”text-9″]text-9[/widget]

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And then in my reading up on the Olympics, I was struck by this quote from the Georgian luger, Nodar Kumaritashvili, who died in a practice run on Friday.[widget id=”text-9″]text-9[/widget]

Before the accident, Kumaritashvili called his father telling him how he was afraid of a specific part of the run.[widget id=”text-9″]text-9[/widget]

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(story by ALEXANDER MARQUARDT)

Dominant Thoughts Rule

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Okay, so we all know that the thoughts we choose to think determine what we create in our lives?

(We DO know that, right? 🙂

So what determines the thoughts we think?

More than anything, we choose the thoughts that are lying on top of the tool chest. We choose the most easily accessible thoughts and the most easily accessible thoughts are the ones we’ve practiced. The thoughts we practice over and over become our beliefs. Once a belief is in place, the process of choosing thoughts tends to operate on auto-pilot. In other words, once a belief is in place, we don’t expend much energy monitoring or directing our thoughts. This automatic processing of our thoughts can be a double-edged sword.

If your beliefs are aligned with your desires, awesome. You’re in good shape.

However, if the thoughts that are most easily accessible to you are not in line with your desires, your desires will continue to elude you. Chances are you’ll feel frustrated, like what you always seems just out of your reach.

Here’s a easy way to identify the thoughts that you have been practicing on any given subject. We’ll do a simple word association to determine what your DOMINANT THOUGHT is on a subject. Your dominant thought is powerful; it will tell us the entire story on what you are creating in your life.

First, pick a subject. Money is always popular because everyone wants more of it, so let’s go with that one for now.

So, write down the word on a piece of paper.

MONEY

Say it aloud. (Don’t worry, no one’s listening to you.)

As the words leave your lips, allow yourself to notice the first thoughts or feelings that come up within you.

Does the subject of money lead you to begin worrying about paying your bills? <WORRY>

Do you feel a sense of struggle about the subject? Like you keep trying, but never seem to get there? <STRUGGLE>

Or (let’s hope!) the subject of money evokes a feeling of freedom or adventure. <FREEDOM>

Just notice the thoughts and feelings that come up and write that word beside MONEY on your page.

Voila!

You now have your dominant thought about money.

(I suggest that you do this exercise with many topics and have fun exploring the programs that you’ve been running in your mind. Remember, those programs determine what you are getting in your life. Ignore them at your own peril. Other potential topics: Your body. Parenthood. Relationships. Career success. Hell, you could even check in on your dominant beliefs about airline travel, dining out, or general contractors. Any subject will work.)

Okay, once you know your dominant thought on a subject, you know the blueprint that exists in your mind. You have access to the plans and instructions that you are delivering to the universe to assemble on your behalf. You get what you think about and your dominant thoughts determine what we get.

At this point, most people recognize that on some important subject, their dominant thought is not in line with their desire. (No wonder it never shows up!).

Ack!

No need to panic. There are no problems, only solutions.

But moving through this situation and allowing your desires is not a passive process. No, you need to step up and take charge. You’ll need to become radically responsible for your thoughts and your life.

What does that mean?

Stay tuned…