Here's the call from yesterday. Thanks to all of you who attended. I hope you find my thoughts helpful in some way. You can listen below, or just use the link to download the MP3 file.

Feelings of freedom, ease, connection = VCL.

I plan on doing much more with the topic, especially since the interest was great…

And please, if you have questions or comments, just post them below…

best,

d

oh, this is just me, waiting to upload the audio in the cafe… playing with the mac! upload is sllloooooww…

I've hired a contractor to do a job. No need to get into specifics of the job or stereotypes about the profession, I bring up the situation to speak to a larger point.

Two weeks ago, my contractor came over and I gave him his second check for my job. I've not seen him or the crew since. I do not think he ran away with the money. I have no concern that they will not return and finish the job (after all, if they do not, I get to keep the rusty wheelbarrow they've left behind). I'm not really in a rush for the work to be done — it does not affect my daily life too much.

My point is this…

I've called my contractor several times, wondering why his people are not at my place. To his credit, the contractor always calls me back. However, he begins the conversation with excuses ("oh, I lost my cell phone…"). I quickly inform him that I am not interested in his excuses, I just want an answer to my question of when I can expect work to resume. Again, he tries to explain his situation to me ("oh, one of my guys disappeared for a couple days, now he's back…") and again, I deliver the message that I am not interested in the excuse — no matter how valid. I just want know what you are going to deliver and when you are going to deliver it. And I want you to keep your word. If you cannot keep your word, I expect that you will communicate that with me. Do not make me chase you.

One of the Four Agreements is to be impeccable with your word. Say what you mean. Deliver what you say. While this certainly applies to women, I believe this dynamic to be rooted in masculine energies. As such, one of the keys to showing up as a powerful man is to be true to your word. Doing what you say keeps you in alignment and sends a strong signal to the world. Coherence is attractive and draws feminine energy to it.

Conversely, incoherence is highly unattractive. It's unreliable, unconscious, erratic, and weak. It repels feminine energy. And in the grander scheme of things, it requires much more energy than standing by your word.

For example, as I mentioned, I called my contractor and expressed my displeasure on his voicemail. Now he's got to call me back, do some somersaults and cartwheels dealing with a pissed off customer. While I give him credit for calling me back, wouldn't it be easier to have a life where these situations do not occur in the first place? (You can be sure that this happens in his personal life as well). All it would have taken on his part is a 30 second phone call that informed me that he could not keep his word, that they could not be at my house today. Clear, direct, to the point.

While my contractor inspired this post, as someone interested in the law of attraction and living a very cool life, I've invested some time studying the respective roles of masculine and feminine energy. And I see lots of men who do not act like men. They show up like little boys; boys who are afraid to grow up and show up in the fullness of their power. The result is always the same: a life of frustration, of mediocrity, or as Pink Floyd sings, lives of "quiet desperation."

I see it in men. And I hear the frustration from my female clients (by the way ladies, if you put up with it, you get what you deserve).

I could get into all the reasons men do not embrace their power, but that's an entire piece unto itself that I will save for another time.

Instead, I'll offer a few principles to keep front of mind.

1) Do not make excuses. Guess what? No one really cares about your story of why you did not come through. Really. No one cares. Do not mistake listening with caring.

An excuse is your way to try to distance yourself from responsibility. Save the story and just own it. Everyone makes mistakes. Own yours and retain your power. Yes, sometimes there are forces outside our control that affect your ability to meet your word. But as man, that's your cross to bear (women have plenty of their own). Your shoulders are broad. Just carry it. Telling stories or resort to blame and you piss your power away.

2) Underpromise and overdeliver. A simple strategy, first taught to me by Thomas J. Leonard. Self-explanatory. Again, why people overpromise in the first place is another discussion.

3) Do not make promises. Believe it or not, not every one is built to make promises (the study of Human Design provides more insight on this). However, we are conditioned to believe that we are all supposed to make promises and to live up to them. But if you know you are not good at keeping your word, then come clean about that. Tell the person you cannot promise anything, or underpromise to the point where you are certain you can deliver easily. Of course, this can difficult when people are pressuring you to meet their desire for a clear answer — but standing firm in the face of pressure falls back under of our heading of What It Means To Be a Man. Either meet your promises or do not make them in the first place. Be self aware enough to know which category you belong in.

4) Communicate. My real issue with my contractor is the lack of communication. Yes, he has broken his word several times. And while that irritates me, the greater truth is that I am certain that this habit comes back to bite him in the ass just about every day of his life. He pays the real price, not me.

His life would be easier if he recognized the value of communicating cleanly. Whatever the reason, perhaps he cannot make it to my house on a given day. Things happen. All that is required is a quick call to inform me and things would be cool.

Why do men not communicate well? The simplest reason is that it's easier not to. Communicating often means being present with emotional intensity — and that's uncomfortable for many men. Nonetheless, it's still part of being a man (that "emotions are for women" stuff is total cop-out bullshit).

So either begin to communicate or put some conscious attention on learning how to do so. Again, it's your responsibility. Own it.

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…so this is something I feel strongly about and I do my best to live. From what my wife tells me, the fact that she can count on me to do as I say is something she greatly appreciates. If you're a man, learn to act like it. And everything you attract into your life will take a quantum leap…

A while ago, I mentioned I was going to share with you some of the techniques and technologies I use to free myself (and clients) of old patterns of conditioning.

If you're into the Law of Attraction and Abraham-Hicks, you'll be familiar with the message that you real work in this life is to clean up your vibration. Perhaps that sounds, New Agey or esoteric, but I consider myself to be a pragmatist (albeit an optimistic one!), and I've have personally found this work to be the key to improving my life. It sure simplifies things too!

Anyhow, as I mention in the video, I've been working with the Wavemaker machine for over 7 years now. Initially, I focused on changing the dynamics of my personal relationships (I seemed to create the same one over and over, just the person next to me looked different. Finally, I realized the problem was me…). Since clearing out some old patterns of need… well let's just say I am much happier and feel much more free in my relationship. I attracted something so good, I even got married.

I've used the technology to clear up my conflicting intentions and limiting beliefs from everything to living in the present moment to attracting my dream home (I live in the evidence…). In my opinion, this kind of work — core energy work — is the future for personal development and therapy work.

Here are a series of 4 videos that walk you through the process of a Wavemaker session…

By the way, I was inspired to create these (I know the quality isn't perfect, but better to create and than hem about perfection), by a recent conversation with my friend Jenn who reminded me of the effect a session (on her habit of feeling disappointed had on her life).

I created a quick audio excerpt of her powerful experience right here:

Jenn's audio is 3 minutes…

Okay, time for the show…

I know, I should have smiled more… but this is serious business, man…

PART I - 7:42

An overview of the philosophy/technology of the Wavemaker

PART II - 4:53

Intention statement, tapping into your KNOWING, using the good 'ole witchin' wands (I keep hitting the mic with 'em, sorry!), identifying barriers

PART III - 4:03

more checking with the wands, debugging with Wavemaker

PART IV - 2:01

explanation of what to expect after a successful debug, check with the intention statement = 100%!

I don't know if you got through all that, but if you did, bravo!

Okay, for those of you who are REALLY curious (I was when I first learned of this technology), I'll include a great 20 minute audio from the inventor of the Wavemaker, Tom Stone…

Thanks for checking this out and again, let me know any questions that arise…

On my way to basketball this AM I was listening to my trusty satellite radio, doing some rockin' out.

An old Def Leppard song came on — Action, Not Words.

I haven't heard the song in years, but  this was the music of my youth and in those days I spent all my money on albums, cassettes, walkmans, and speakers.

Somehow, all the lyrics were still embedded in my neural connections. The words poured out, I sang along, got pumped up to play some basketball, and reflected upon my teenage years.

While I couldn't quite remember who I was back then (I think I was happy, but was I?), I was certain that Def Leppard had indeed rocked. I wanted to share the sentiment with someone, to reminisce over the merits of the albums High N Dry and Pyromania. (For the record, they turned the corner for me with Hysteria.)

But it's just me and soon I'm at the gym, doing battle.

After the games, I stop at an internet cafe to do a little work and get some food.

I notice a couple in the booth across from where I type this entry.

Something about them strikes me, so I keep stealing glances, piecing together bits of information in my head (I do this, so beware of me in public places. I tell ya, I don't miss a trick). I notice his accent — pleasant. English? Certainly not from these parts…

There's something about them… are they artists of some kind?

On their way out, I hear him mention something about a manager for Def Leppard.

Wait a minute…

Is that…?

Of course, it is!

A Google search confirms everything…

The dude is one of the members of Def Leppard!

(I'll keep it private as to which one, but I'll say that I've never seen anyone else play his instrument the way he does. Got it now, rock fans?)

Believe me that when I tell you this was a rather unlikely meeting place. I'm still shaking my head at the thought of it. I do not live any where near L.A…. Logically, the odds had to be damn near zero… but I like to look deeper than logic can take me. (And if he hadn't said something about Def Leppard in front of me at the last minute, I never would have made the connection. It sorta felt like he was giving me a clue…?)

These sorts of meetings have been happening quite a bit in the past few weeks (but this one takes the prize so far). I will think of someone and then bump into them in an unlikley way. It's fun and a bit freaky too…

I've doing some working clearing any barriers to my intuition with my Very Cool Life Network group… I think this is likely it — that I'm just in tune with what's to unfold.

Here's to remembering more of the future!

And rocking out…

d

On my vision board in my office is a picture of a Toyota FJ Cruiser.

I've wanted one since they were introduced a couple of years ago.

Each time I see one on the road, I feel my desire light up. A few months back I stopped a dealership and sat in a couple models to stoke the flames of my desire.

The other day I was leaving the mountain after a great day of spring skiing. My legs were shot from a day of pushing myself and I was hungry as I'd not eaten since breakfast. In short, I was looking forward to getting home and sitting in front of the fire.

On my way out of the resort, I noticed two FJ Cruisers off to my right.  As I got closer, I saw a sign inviting me to stop in an test drive the FJ on an obstacle course. As cool as that seemed, my tired legs and grubling belly trumped my desire. I drove on past the entrance to the course.

But as I drove on, I couldn't shake the feeling that I was cheating myself in some way. Opportunity was knocking, and I needed to open the door. So I did a U-Turn and within a few minutes I was on the course. (The young man asked me if I had a license. I said yes. We were on our way).

This is me driving the course. A little 3 wheel action! I really thought I might roll it one section.
Toyota was smart enough to take my picture. Good marketing, eh? I mean, I'm sharing it…

So now I want an FJ more than ever, of course! I'm sure I could have one in my garage tomorrow if I went to the dealer, but I have no desire to do a lot of financing to get something I really do not absolutely need (but it would be very cool).

Right now, I do not know how this vehicle is going to come into my life. As far as I can tell (but hey, I am open to anything!) I'll need to attract more money. But my desire is growing stronger and in my experience, when I get this feeling, something usually happens.

The greater point to make here is that I believe you have to meet the universe half-way in manifesting your desires. Attracting things is not simply about thinking positive thoughts, sitting on your couch with a nice beer, and waiting for the doorbell to ring (alas, I've tried this to no avail).

Rather, you need to engage in the actions that are in alignment with your desires. Whether you want a vehicle, a home, a career you love, or a life partner ask yourself what you are doing to meet the universe half way? What are you doing that brings up the same feeling within you that matches the feeling of having your desire already?

Stopping to test drive a vehicle certainly is not hard. Yet in that moment, it was easier for me to drive on by. Such is the case with so many of our desires. It's simply easier not to put our conscious attention on what we want. Strange, but true.

Keep in mind, conscious actions lead to conscious creations.

The next photo of me and the FJ will be me sitting in my driveway. Dunno when that will be, but I can feel it.

 

To be continued…