The Law of Attraction for Very Cool Living
I was just doing some morning reading to start my day and I came across an old Abraham quote that said,
"Those who speak the most of prosperity, have it. Those who speak most of health have it. Those who speak most of sickness, have it. Those who speak most of poverty, have it."
While the ramifications of what we speak and what we attract applies to everything, I began to think about this quote specifically in terms of the first example — prosperity.
Everyone desires more money in their life. After all, money represents freedom and who does’t want more freedom? When I look back at my own prosperity path, I see a winding road with lots of bumps, potholes, and the occasional patch of black ice.
My financial life began to turn around when I began to talk about money.
Reflecting on my own life, I can’t say the subject of money was taboo in my family. It wasn’t. But then again, it never really came up all that much, and when the issue of money did come up, the context was not positive. It was more "How in-the-hell are we going to get the money for that?" rather than, "Isn’t it so wonderful that all this money came into our experience?" (Come to think of it, I do not recall the latter example ever happening.)
So there was not much conversation regarding the joy of creating money going on in my formative years. As I grew into an adult, most of the people around me shared my struggle with money, so when we talked about money, it was to commiserate over the fact that we had none.
As I became an adult and eventually started my own business, I attracted some friends who were several steps ahead of me in the money game. My greatest influence in this department has been my friend Warren. Warren has an MBA and had owned several successful businesses. He just loves the whole game of making money and he was particularly intrigued by my coaching business (it is a very cool job).
During our conversations Warren would pepper me with questions. How was much I was charging? What was my net income for the year? Did I have a good accountant? How much was I saving? Was I investing?
These were all questions I had not thought of before. I had little awareness of anything to do with money. Most important, when Warren spoke of these things, it was with a tone of excitement — the absolute joy of money. There was no fear, no pressure, no "shoulds" around money.
In my first conversations with Warren, even though I didn’t have a nickel in my savings account (or a saving account), I began to feel the possibilities around money. I would speak about having more money and the freedom it would afford me and I would immediately feel excited about having more money come into my experience. For the first time, I was having regular conversations about money in a positive manner. I was speaking of my desires around money.
Warren is still my wonderful friend. We still talk about money all the time. Warren will call me and tell me how great his sales are and how large sums of unexpected money fell into his lap. He knows I am genuinely happy for him. Likewise, I am equally excited to share my successes with Warren and he always amplifies my energy.
I have lots of friends and a great family. But I realize that talking about money is still somewhat of an off-limits subject in many of those relationships. Like religion or politics, it’s just not "polite" or proper fodder for conversation. Money issues are so pervasive, I find that many people are not comfortable talking about money because they do not experience abundance and their money issues have roots at the core of their being.
I am a huge believer in power of environments to pull us forward in attracting our desires. In this case, my friend with a wonderfully healthy attitude towards money became a powerful environment for me. I realize that most people do not have an environment where they consistently talk about money in a positive manner. Referring back to the quote at the top of this post, speaking about prosperty is crucial to attracting prosperity.
On the flip side, become conscious how you speak about money. Is the "not enough"? Are some things "too expensive?" Do you resent people who "have it too easy?"
I always say that your relationship with money is no different than any other relationship. If you speak poorly of people and if your actions show that you do not trust them, why would these people want to hang out with you? Likewise, if you speak poorly of money and your actions show you do not trust money, why would money want to hang out with you?
So create an environment where you can talk about money. You’ll need to be open, honest, positive. Create a relationship with someone whose relationship with money you admire. Hire a great coach. Join a community. Or simply create the intention that you regularly speak about money in a manner that makes you feel great and then see what unfolds.
But my favorite? Have a least one great friend with a wonderful and contagious attitude toward money.