I am blessed in many ways. One thing that I am particularly grateful for is the fact that over the years I’ve been able to attract a steady clientele of successful people. My clients are not folks who have lives full of problems, rather they have very good lives. They choose to work with me because they hold the intention of attracting even better things into their lives.
With my front row seat to how these dynamic people think and behave, Iâ€™ve come to the conclusion that they share at least one thing in common: They allow themselves to want more than most other people do. That’s their biggest secret.
These people are aware that whatever they allow themselves to desire will eventually come into their experience. And so they keep expanding their desires. For them, there’s no such thing as having it “good enough” and then resting on their laurels. Understand that this does not mean these people are perpetually discontent where they are. Quite the contrary. They appreciate all they have and recognize how wonderful life is in the present moment. At the same time, they also recognize that the nature of all life is to grow and evolve and so they allow the flame of desire to fuel them to experience more of what life offers to us all.
In short, these people put their conscious intent on wanting more. They dream bigger. They constantly tinker with their own limits of what is possible.
In thinking about how some people allow themselves to want more than others, I remembered an experience I had with my friend Warren a few years ago.
Warren and I were visiting an amusement park (we were attending a concert there later in the evening) and he made a beeline for the gargantuan roller coaster. It had been years since I’d been on a coaster, but I was game for the experience. Walking up to the ride, I noticed there were two lines. One long, one short.
Naturally, I moved to the shorter line.
This prompted Warren to ask bluntly, “Drew, what do you think you’re doing?”
Confused, I pointed to the disparity between the lines. One was nearly twice as long as the other one.
Warren shook his head and explained that the longer line he now stood in was for the front seat of the roller coaster.
“So?” I responded.
“So? Don’t you want to ride in the front seat?” Warren said.
“Um, I don’t really care. I mean, it’s kinda all the same isn’t it? I just don’t want to wait forever.”
Warren shook his head and gave me a look to garner my full attention.
“Drew, do you want to experience 75% of this ride, or 100% of the ride?” he asked.
Warren’s point hit me between the eyes. With a laugh, I joined him in the longer line. We waited our turn, then took our seat in the front.Â I remember the slow ascent to the first drop. In the front car, we could see everything unfolding perfectly. Our car tick-tick-ticked its way to the top. At the apex there was the moment of stillness and so much anticipation that my stomach migrated to my throat.
From zero to 73 miles an hour in the blink of an eye. Absolutely thrilling. Couldnâ€™t wipe the perma-grin from my face. Upon finishing, we went straight to the longer line once again. And then again.
After riding in the first car, there was no thought of riding somewhere in the middle of the train. The front was just too cool, just too much fun, too thrilling. Warren was right. Why would we ride 75% of the ride when with just a little more patience we could experience the very best the ride had to offer?
Of course, there’s nothing wrong with the middle of the chain. The roller coaster provided excitement and fun no matter where you sat. And seventy-five percent of the ride is pretty good considering some people never even get off the couch and make it to the amusement park, right?
Just as Warren made me aware of the possibility to experience more on the ride, I am reminding you of the possibility to experience more in your everyday experience. Life comes complete with infinite opportunity, yet in our routines, we can become blind to them. We donâ€™t allow ourselves to tap into the coolest vision of our lives.
We can also dismiss our deepest dreams as â€œimpracticalâ€ or â€œimpossible.â€ Yet, when you think about it, someone is living the life you dream of this very moment, right? Again, I submit that the only difference between the person who living the dream from those who do not is that the former allow themselves to want it. They open themselves up to taking in those wonderful feelings. And they hold tight to this intention, even in the face of adversity.
Just like riding in the front seat required me to be conscious of the opportunity, having more in your life requires you to consistently focus your more of your energy and attention on your specific desires.
So if you resonate with living your life wide open, youâ€™ll need to be clear on what that means to you. What does the coolest version of your life look like?
The front seat of the ride waits for you. But you have to choose to sit there.