I just finished watching Oprah’s 2nd show on the bona-fide phenomenon that is The Secret. I enjoyed the program and am very pleased that the Law of Attraction has come into the awareness of millions more people. This expanding awareness is a very good thing for all of us.

Near the end of the program, I got a phone call from a young man who wanted to ask me a few questions about the Law of Attraction. He told me that he recently learned about Attraction and that he was near "obsessed" with it. According to him, he had spent thousands of dollars on Attraction products already, and he wanted to know what I considered the best Attraction product on the market. He said he understood Attraction, but he wanted to know how to live Attraction.

Without hesitation, I told him that understanding the Law of Attraction was not enough and that that I thought his best investment would be to hire a great Attraction coach (or at the very least, he needed to read this blog!).

If you want to get better at something — whether that be tennis, chess, or manifesting – I think your best bet is to begin playing with more advanced players who can easily spot and correct the flaws in your game. I believe this is especially true for living into the Law of Attraction. Why?

As we know, Attraction is based completely on the energy that you put out to the universe. The vibration you emit is the vibration you attraction in your life. Simple enough.

But here’s the rub: the universe responds to your energy whether you are conscious of the energy you are putting out there or not.

Do you ever wonder why your deepest desires fail to manifest? Look in the mirror. You (or more specifically, the patterns of energy that you emit) are the only thing in the way. So how do you change that? Change the energy that you put out to the universe, of course.

However, you are unconscious of most of the ways in which you are blocking the flow of your deepest desires to come into your life. (Don’t feel bad, we are all similarly clueless when it comes to seeing ourselves with total clarity). You would not consciously choose to sabotage yourself, would you? No, just like any addiction, these patterns of energy exist and operate below the level of your awareness. This is what makes them so insidious and such a challenge to eradicate. After all, how can you eliminate a problem that you are not aware you have?

These unconscious blocks are really patterns of energy that you have been carrying around with you, perhaps for decades. These blocks reflect your conditioning and they are borne from the messages of your upbringing, your experiences, the beliefs you adopted, and your environmental surroundings.

For example, people commonly desire to attract more money in their life. When I ask them why they struggle with money, the next words out of their mouth might be something like, “I don’t know. I work really hard though. It’s just so frustrating.”

The young man asked me what to look for in a great Attraction coach. I responded that a great Attraction coach’s job is not to merely teach you about Attraction. You can learn that from a book or an audio for less than twenty bucks. No, to make a real impact, a great Attraction coach must do two things:

1) The coach will facilitate the process of making your unconscious blocks rise to the level of your conscious awareness. In the money example above, a very common reason why people repel money is that they have a subconscious belief that they do not deserve money. Often they learned to associate people with money with a negative quality (e.g., they are selfish, they are not to be trusted, etc.).

In this example, the fact that the person associated “working hard” with money reveals one of their conflicting intentions about money – they believe that in order to experience money, they have to work hard/struggle.

Whatever intention you have that is not manifesting, you can be sure that you have a conflicting intention. Again, everything in the universe is constructed from patterns of energy and energy travels in waves. The diagram below shows the energy wave of an intention (the gray line) and the energy wave of the conflicting intention (the red line). Notice that when these waves meet, the result is that these polar energies cancel each other out and only the straight blue line of zero energy remains. And guess what you manifest when you emit this zero energy? Zero, of course!

2) The second (and much more important) part of a true Attraction coach’s job description is to provide the technique/technology to facilitate a change in the energy you emit. From the technologies I have used to date, this change comes from dismantling the energy of your conflicting intentions.

Understanding The Law of Attraction is not enough, as it does nothing to remove the energy of your unconscious conflicting intentions that obliterate your true intentions.

There’s a wonderful analogy to illustrate this point. Think of your intentions as software running on a computer’s operating system. When the operating system is clean and free of all bugs, all the applications run smoothly. Now think of what happens when your operating system become infected with a virus. Programs lose some of their functionality or fail completely.

Things no longer work properly because the virus (itself an energetic charge) now overrides and corrupts the energy flow of the application, causing it to fail. Ask yourself, does your understanding the virus have an effect on how well the applications run? Of course not.

You can know the name of the virus, you can even access and read the code of the virus, but this does nothing to restore your computer. It’s not until you run the anti-virus software that wipes out the energetic charge of the virus that your computer functions optimally again.

Likewise, you can have the most positive intentions in the world, but if you have a virus/conflicting intention in your personal operating system, you will have real problems manifesting your desires. The “cleaner” your energy (the more you are free from conflicting intentions), the more you are an attraction magnet.

Your true work is to move beyond the basic understanding of Attraction to the place where you are consistently identifying and eradicating the patterns of energy you send out that conflict with your true intentions.

Got it?

In the upcoming weeks, I will feature some of the cutting-edge technologies that eliminate the negative emotional patterns responsible for the conflicting intentions that prevent us from easily attracting what we want in our lives.