By now, you likely know my affection for distinctions.
Subtle shifts in thinking make all the difference between a Very Cool Life and a life of struggle, frustration, and striving. It ain’t the big stuff, it’s the little stuff.
To use a weight lifting analogy, if you’re truly wanting a life that feels easier, stronger, and more attractive, focus on your technique rather than trying to push heavier and heavier weights.
However, most people skip the small details because details require awareness. Awareness takes conscious effort and focus, and it’s just not a habit most people engage in.
This little preamble leads me to today’s thought/distinction…
Can you do things wrong?
Or…
Do you sometimes just create things you don’t particularly like?
A belief in the former is a subtle way of condemning yourself. This habit of thought will slow you down. Way down. And this is what most people do when thinking about themselves and their creations.
A belief in the latter places you at the epicenter of all of your creations. You are the creator of your circumstances, of your reality. No one/no thing else. Like skiing, at first this can be terrifying, but as you get the hang of it, it’s pure exhilaration and freedom.
Sure, sometimes you fall. Everybody falls.
But does falling mean you are failing? Doing it wrong?
Or does that mean you are learning? Or that you happened to ski over a hidden rock? (Did this the other day.)
If you believe falling means you’re doing it wrong, you’ll likely head to the lodge. No one likes to fail.
If you believe falling means that you fell, you’re likely to dust yourself off and keep heading downhill. And then who knows what adventures lie ahead of you?
Like it – lots to write about failure, for sure. Those slight adjustments can really change your POV.