When You’re Truly Happy…


True happiness exists only in the moment.

True happiness only exists in the NOW.

(There is no future — only a series of “NOWs,” so delaying your happiness is an illogical, irrational thing to do.)

True happiness is always available to you, and the price is FOCUS.


Are you willing to focus?

(That’s the only catch here.)


If your answer is YES, true happiness is the simple, inevitable result of consciously directing your thought in a wanted direction.

And you can do this easily. You do it all the time already.

But you’ll have to let go of some well-worn patterns of where you focus.


Specifically, when you are truly happy, you’ll let go of your caring, your concern, your habit of protecting yourself from the conditions around you.

The conditions, like the weather, are always changing. Some days the weather will be great. Some days the weather will be lousy. These are just the temporary conditions and when you’re truly happy, you’ve already decided that you’re just going to get outside and play, no matter the weather.

  • When you are truly happy, you won’t really care all that much about money.

The big tendency with money is to make money responsible for your happiness. To think, “well if I only had that money, then I’d be happy,” and in doing so, you delay your true happiness. When you’re truly happy, money is just a detail of life and not something you’re giving a whole lot of thought to. In the happiest moments of your life, you’re not thinking about money.

  • When you are truly happy, you won’t care much about climate change (or whatever the “right” issue to get behind is).

When you are truly happy, you won’t care much about politics — the kind in Washington D.C. that cares about with Democrats and Republicans, the kind about what the “right food” is to eat, the kind about “the right way to educate and raise children”, and so on.

  • When you are truly happy, you won’t really be tuned into the next national tragedy or disaster in the headlines.

When you are truly happy, you’ll begin to notice how all of those topics are interesting, yes. They exist around you, sure. And they could maybe someday affect you in a negative way sometime down the line. But right NOW, in this moment, when you are truly happy, you begin to notice that these things are not really relevant to your life.

In fact, you begin to notice that tuning into them at all is OPTIONAL.

And the more you live this way, the more you see these sorts of subjects move to the periphery.

When you’re truly happy, you’re now living on a very different wavelength, so now, in order to connect to such things, you’d have to swim against the current to reach them.

You can, sure. But why would you?

  • When you are truly happy, the only thing that’s relevant is your happiness.

Now, you can certainly use your free will to make these issues relevant, to focus on the conditions of the world that you find to be problematic, of course. But when you do so, you’re letting the conditions dictate how you feel. And you’ll notice that focusing on these conditions does not feel good.

Can’t do that and be truly happy.

Not in the only moment that exists, NOW.

Does all this sound selfish?

Well, it is.

True happiness is an inherently selfish act, meaning YOU, your SELF, is the only one responsible for your happiness. You’re the only one that can do a damn thing about your happiness through the power of your focus.

And when you are choosing to focus on being truly happy NOW, you will be living on a totally different wavelength than all your worries, fears, concerns about the future.

You cannot be truly happy and be seeing the world as wrong or full of problems. 

Putting your stock in the conditions around you, and waiting for those things (e.g., Congress, “the economy”, your spouse or child, the climate, your body, your bank account, etc…) to change before you allow yourself to be happy?

That is a fool’s errand.

Deep down you know this to be true.

Really, the only question that remains — the only one that ever matters —  is, Are you ready to take responsibility for your focus NOW, are you willing to allow yourself to start having what you really want NOW, are you really willing to be truly happy, NOW?




Get Your Hands Dirty

Wheatfield With Cypresses by Van Gogh

Wheatfield With Cypresses by Van Gogh


“I am always doing what I can’t do yet in order to learn how to do it.” — Vincent Van Gogh

One of the great sources of pleasure in my life is learning to do new things. Some recent points of focus have been gardening, refining my skiing technique, learning how to make films on my computer, taking a better photograph, and learning some new songs on the guitar.

I love the exhilaration of learning new things; of seeing, hearing, tasting and feeling the tangible evidence of doing something better than ever or creating something that seemed impossible at a point in time.

There’s ONLY ONE WAY to learn how to create something new, and that is through the DIRECT EXPERIENCE OF DOING.

  • You’ll never become a master chef by watching cooking shows on TV.
  • You never improve your relationships by reading a bunch of Buzzfeed listicles (or the most brilliant book on relationships ever written, for that matter).
  • You’ll never learn to play guitar by watching tutorial videos on YouTube.
  • You’ll never create a powerful body by reading magazine articles and or quoting the newest health research.

Because the only way you learn how to create anything new is from direct experience.

People regularly share with me how they’ve “read every book on Law of Attraction,” but still struggle to create the tangible results they desire.


My standard follow-up is a rhetorical question…

“What sort of consistent, hands-on practice do you have set up to support yourself in getting better at directing your thoughts?” I ask.

Cutting to the quick, the true answer is always “none.” (And yes, lots of these folks are coaches.)

Bluntly speaking, most people want to be able to tell themselves they’re doing the work (by reading books, watching the show, or even buying the program), without ever following through and getting their hands dirty in the experience of DOING.

If you’re not seeing something you desire come into your life, THERE’S NO MYSTERY AS TO WHY this is the case. (These days, we’re beyond the mystery, folks.)

It always comes down to the same three letters…


This isn’t about blaming yourself. It’s about taking responsibility and owning what you create in your life.

People mistake learning about some thing with engaging in the DOING of that thing, even though these divergent approaches deliver vastly different results.

As I mentioned in the opening, I’ve been loving the experience of becoming a gardener over the past couple years. In order to become a master in the garden, you must get your hands (and knees) dirty. You’ll need to kick the shovel in the ground, to dig out the rocks with your fingers. There will be sweat.

my son practices gardening
my son practices gardening

And yes, in the process of doing, some plants will die at your hand as you learn what kills them and what makes them thrive. Simply put, you need invest your time, energy, and focus if you want to experience the thrill of creating something new.

Of course, you could hire a gardener to do the whole job for you and avoid the whole messy endeavor.

But no salsa tastes as sweet as the batch you grew from seeds, harvested, and prepared in your kitchen.

In the salsa you created, each bite is rich with the unmistakable flavor of ZEST. The zest for life. The zest for creating someone new from your own mind and hand.

And for me, this zest is what the practice of Law of Attraction is precisely about. It’s the thrill of seeing my life consistently unfold under my direction, in ways that are better than I expected.

Some days it’s lining up with the perfect parking spot. Other days it’s having a hefty chunk of money show up in my bank account out of the blue. But it’s plugging into the electricity of a life that continually gets better and better and better.

Always be doing what you cannot do now so that you can learn how to do it. This is the only way life works. (In my mind, when you stop this process, this is when you start to get crusty and old.)

When it comes to immersing people into the direct experience of Law of Attraction (instead of just learning about the concepts), I know I have created one of the most powerful environments in the world (and yes, it thrills me a bit to type those words and recognize it here).

The people in my coaching group who practice, who get their hands dirty with experience share their “miracles” with me.

I’ve been sharing my group for $97 a month, but it’s simply time to raise the stakes. I will be doubling the price to $197 in the next week (June 9th) and then raising it from there.


Here’s what this means for you.

If you want to shift out of the “learning” lane (the slow boat to nowhere but intellectual stimulation) and get into the express lane of direct experience (where you see the results of immersing yourself in a powerful coaching environment that pertains to your real life situations and desires), then I have a fantastic offer for you.

Become a member of my Law of Attraction coaching group now. Get direct access to the most powerful coaching of its kind on the planet. Get your hands dirty. Bask in the results of your work.

When you join now, you lock in the $97/month rate for as long as you remain in the group. You can leave at any time. Simple. Easy.

Join after June 9th, and the rate is (at least) $197 month.

So there you have it.


Drop the excuses, get your hands dirty, and see the results.

If you don’t, you won’t. Again, it’s just math.

Get out of the bleachers, invest in yourself, and get into the game.


It’s what you came here for, isn’t it?


Join here and check out the bonuses…



P.S. My rates for private sessions will be doubling on June 9th, too. So if you want them at the current rate, you can bank up to 3.

Get them here.


P.P.S. If you want to come connect with me on my live LOA Coaching Tour, I’ll be in upstate NY on Friday, June 5th, and Redding, CT on June 13th. Please watch the video and register here.